At the ripe age of (almost) 28, I can say that I have never been as confident in myself as I am today. Growing up, we're told over & over to "Be Confident! Believe in Yourself! But... in today's time of the Social Media "let's all pretend that we're perfect and have the perfect family and perfect house and perfect waist & perfect skin era" it's so easy to get wrapped up in what other people "have" and compare that to what you don't. If you are truly confident in yourself, you can admire what other people have or look like without taking a personal dig at yourself. If you are truly confident in yourself, you don't have to feel jealous of anyone because you are always true to yourself and believe that you can have/achieve anything you want. If you are truly confident in yourself, you aren't held back from getting the things you truly want in fear of what others might think of you.
Confidence is NOT arrogance. Arrogance is thinking you are better than you actually are at a particular thing (or person). Confidence is knowing what your strengths are and not being afraid to showcase them. It's being fucking proud of the person you are, with no apologies given! Arrogance is annoying, confidence is admirable.
Confidence begins to build once you can thoroughly evaluate yourself and be at peace with the person that you truly are. You then have to set a vision for your life, and determine what your goals are. You have to accept that you aren't perfect & know that you can be better. Who wants to be the same person they were 10 years ago? 5 years ago? 1 year ago? Not me! Change = evolving. I'd like to think that I am confident enough to make the choices & decisions I need to constantly be moving forward to achieve my vision.
I want to encourage all of you to check your confidence game. If I was so worried about what other people thought of me, I would never have been confident enough to start this website, quit my corporate job to work with my husband, start #SavannahInfluencers, sell our house to move back downtown, cuss like a sailor, wear hair extensions, meet new friends, break down personal boundaries, dress the way I want to dress, feel the way I want to feel.
What does confidence mean to you and how do you think it's important?
I hope that you all have an amazing weekend. Life is busier than ever for me right now but that seems to be my new normal, and I'm adjusting to that. I can't wait to incorporate some more thought-provoking & real posts into my website, as well as feature some of my amazing, talented, and smart friends.